They are not talking to each other

That means that they have set the ground rules for the fight. Now they can start thinking about a solution and sharpen their arguments. Is this working in our favor?

Next: who will be the deal maker and how will the loser react. Are we OK or are we just postponing the fight? An can we now find other things that we can agree on?

Let's look at each other again. We have been in lala land too long. Not good for you, not good for me.